Living From Our Values with Intention

In today’s noisy and chaotic world, our values anchor us and guide us through life’s challenges with courage and purpose. We can’t ignore what’s happening around us—our actions toward others, regardless of party affiliation, reflect our values. If I value the life and dignity of every person, my actions will— or won’t—reflect that belief.

Michael Meade, in his podcast 470 about current political and cultural issues, notes how important our values are for human society and our own lives: “For, the original meaning of the archetype of apocalypse includes an awakening of the individual soul that can initiate a process of renewal of human society based upon the core values of meaning and truth, justice and inclusion and love over fear.”

Pause and reflect: What values matter most to you, and how do they appear in your daily life? This isn’t just theoretical—it’s a chance to live with intention. When we act on our values, we define ourselves and inspire others, ultimately shaping our communities and the wider world.

Benjamin Franklin crafted a personal list of 13 virtues, recording his reflections in The Art of Virtue. His words still resonate today:

“We stand at the crossroads, each minute, each hour, each day, making choices. We choose the thoughts we allow ourselves to think, the passions we allow ourselves to feel, and the actions we allow ourselves to perform. Each choice is made in the context of whatever value system we have selected to govern our lives. In selecting that value system, we are, in a very real way, making the most important choice we will ever make.”

This makes it essential to clarify our values and to make a conscious effort to live by them. When we’re intentional, our values become a compass, guiding our decisions even when life’s path gets rocky.

Franklin lived his values. Each day, he reviewed his 13 virtues, holding himself accountable for his choices. While he called them “virtues,” we might call them “values” today. His approach is timeless: define your values, strive to embody them, and regularly reflect on your progress.

Two examples of his virtues:

• Justice: “Wrong none by doing injuries or omitting the benefits that are your duty.”
• Sincerity: “Use no hurtful deceit. Think innocently and justly; and, if you speak, speak accordingly.”

Living with intention requires ongoing self-examination, humility, and the willingness to grow. When we align our choices with our values, we not only improve ourselves but also contribute to a more compassionate and just world.

Examples of Values

Do Unto Others—Take a moment to imagine its ripple effects: greater compassion, understanding, and real connection throughout society. These simple words can transform not only our lives but also our communities and the world.

Bravery– means acting on your beliefs despite fear or uncertainty, guided by integrity and purpose. If this is your value, it calls for acting courageously in your personal life, within your community, and in the wider world.

Family— As a therapist, I’ve seen how unresolved family tensions and blame can lead to estrangement. But when we truly value “family”—showing tolerance, acceptance, and forgiveness—we can heal rifts and strengthen our relationships.

Your Next Steps: Purposeful Living in Daily Life

1. Create a personal list of the 10 key values you want to live by. Define each value in your own words clarifying what it means to you
2. Display this list somewhere you’ll see it every day—a refrigerator, your PC, phone.
3. Check in with yourself daily, just like Franklin did. Are your actions in line with your values?

“Only a virtuous people are capable of freedom. As nations become corrupt and vicious, they have more need of masters.” – Ben Franklin